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Friend wants the baby, boyfriend doesn't

My friend has realised she's pregnant and wants to go through with it, but her boyfriend doesn't want to get involved. I know she needs his support but I don't think he wants to be a young parent. How can I help her?
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Hi there,

Thanks for your letter.

Your friend has found out she is pregnant and has decided she wants to keep the baby. When anyone thinks they might be pregnant, it’s really important to have it confirmed by their GP or at a sexual health clinic. Maybe that’s something you could suggest to your friend if she hasn’t seen a doctor already, you could even offer to go with her if you feel able to. Sometimes, friends in difficult situations just need a friend to be there for them, to listen if they feel like talking.

You have told me that her boyfriend doesn’t want to be involved and you realise it could be difficult for your friend without his support. It’s good to hear she has a friend like you who wants to help her. This is an important time where people like your friend need the support of those around them. Brook is a really good organisation that offer support to young people around pregnancy or sexual health. Perhaps you could have a look at their website with your friend to see what support is available to her.

You could also let your friend know that she can talk to ChildLine any time. The counsellors talk to lots of young people about pregnancy, sex and relationships so they would be able to support her either over the phone or online.

It can sometimes be hard to know how to support a friend with what they are going through and it’s ok to talk to ChildLine about that if you feel like it could help. You can phone them free on 0800 1111 or register an account on the website and then you can send emails or have 1-2-1 chats with counsellors, which is a bit like Facebook chat.

Take care,


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