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teasing

when ever these girls walk past me, they make noises as if im rubbish , first they used to bully me so i told the teacher, however now they have started doing it more, they back chat about me and make nast noises when they be by me . even worse, i got to sit by them in class, im so upset i dont know what to if i tell the teacher she probably gonna ignore it , because i told her alot of times. if i stand up to them they just get me into trouble im so upset and depressed please help
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Sam

Hi,

Thanks for your letter. I can hear that you are having a really hard time with these girls. It’s wrong that they are treating you like this.

I’m glad that you managed to tell your teacher. It sounds like it’s been really frustrating for you and that you’ve told a lot of times but the bullying is continuing.

Unfortunately, sometimes bullying needs to be reported a lot of times before it gets completely sorted. Although it can feel unfair, and difficult to do, it’s important to keep telling your teacher each time you are bullied. This will make it clear to these girls that you are not going to give up or let them get away with it. Bullying diaries can be a good way to keep a record of what’s happening. In a bullying diary you write down WHAT happens, WHEN it happens, WHO does it and HOW it makes you feel. If you share the diary with your teacher, they can get a really clear picture of what’s going on and how it’s affecting you.

Your school has a responsibility to deal with any bullying and take it seriously. If you feel like your teacher is not doing enough to help, you could ask to speak to your head of year, or even the deputy head or head teacher. You could also ask an adult at home to help you with talking to school.

You said that these girls get you into trouble when you stand up to them. It sounds like that can also be really tricky. I wonder what it might feel like to ask your teacher to support you to talk to these girls directly about what’s happening. A teacher could help you sit together and talk openly about what’s happening, while making sure that the conversation stays fair.

It sounds like this bullying has really started to affect your self-esteem and confidence. When you hear lots of unkind and negative things said about you, you can really start to doubt yourself. Remember - you don’t need to believe what these girls are saying. They are saying things because they want to be unkind, not because they are true. You’re welcome to come and talk to a ChildLine counsellor anytime to get some support with how you are feeling and talk about what you would like to happen next.

You can talk to a ChildLine counsellor by calling for free on 0800 1111 or by logging in for a 1-2-1 chat. Some young people find it helpful to get support on the ChildLine message boards. You could also take a look at the bullying page in the Explore section for more information and advice.

I hope this helps

Sam

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