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Hi there,
Thanks for your letter.
It sounds like you are really worried about your friend and it could have taken a lot of courage to write your letter.
From what you have said, she has had some difficult relationships in the past. You have told me about her being bullied and being controlled by a boyfriend. It could have been hard for you to see your friend go through so much. We always want to help our friends but it is important to have support yourself too.
I can hear that she seems to be happy with C* - although it sounds like you are worried he might be quite controlling with her too. You have said that he checks her messages and tries to tell her who she can spend time with. If someone is checking up on you, telling you who you can spend time with or trying to control you in an emotional way, that is a type of relationship abuse. This is wrong. Nobody has to put up with being treated this way. You can find out more about relationship abuse.
You might like to try talking to your friend about whats been happening between her and C*. There is support out there for her when she is ready. Perhaps you can let her know that she can talk to a ChildLine counsellor. She can do this by phoning free on 0800 1111, sending an email or having an online chat. Its important for you to know that the counsellors are there to support you too if you would like someone to talk to.
You could also visit the message boards to see what other young people have said about this kind of situation and how to get help.
Take care,
Sam
You can talk privately to a counsellor online or call 0800 1111 for free.
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