my best friend has told me she will get me a train up to where she lives and for me to move out because home life is hard. i dont feel respected nor understood here and i would live a better and happier life away from home and independently. but i am having difficulties explaining this to my parents and dont know how to approach this.
Sam
Hi there,
It's a big step to tell your parents that you want to move out, so you need to be sure that it's the right thing for you. Before making any decisions, think about the things that are making you want to move out and what might help resolve them. Maybe your parents don’t know how they're making you feel and talking to them could make things better for you at home.
There’s a lot to think about when moving out, both practically and legally. If you're under 16, then your parents or carers are responsible for you so it wouldn’t be legal to move out like this. Even if you're over 16 it’s important to think about where you're going to live and how you're going to have enough money to live independently.
Starting a conversation with your parents isn’t always easy, especially when things at home are hard. If you’re struggling to find the words you could try writing a letter to them or using a conversation starter to tell them. Try to think about the reasons you want to move out and what you think would be different if you stayed with your friend.
Whatever’s happening at home, you’re not alone. Even if you’re struggling to talk to your parents, you can always talk about it with Childline.
Take care,
Sam
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