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I have this guy at school jokes alot but he hit below the this time he has no remorse for anyone but he talked about me and family members and i dont know how to respond
Ask Sam


Hi there,

You’ve done really well to get in touch and let me know about how things are for you in school. I can hear that this guy can make being at school difficult for you. It sounds like this is on your mind a lot at the moment.

How this guy treats you is a form of bullying and that is wrong. Often the best way to deal with bullying is to let someone know what is happening. In school it is part of a teacher’s job to stop bullying.

Many people worry that telling a teacher can make things worse. If you feel this is something that may happen it would also be important to tell the teacher about how worried you are.

There are other people who might be able to support you with the bullying. You don’t tell me who you live with but parents or carers can be helpful. They may have some good ideas that might be helpful. They can also help by talking to teachers if you don’t feel school is doing enough to stop the bullying.

Sometimes people don’t feel ready to tell teachers and parents and if you feel this way, you could think about asking friends for help. Having friends around you can help you stay safe from the bullying and they may be able to give you emotional support when around the bullies.

We have more information about bullying here which I think you might find helpful. You might also want to check out our message boards about bullying. The message boards are where young people share their experiences and talk about things they have done to get bullying to stop. There is also some good information on which has a young person’s section. 

If you wanted to talk more about this you could get in touch with a ChildLine counsellor. ChildLine counsellors don’t judge and would be able to keep what you’ve said confidential.

You can get in touch with a ChildLine counsellor through email, or log on for a 1-2-1 chat (which is like instant messenger) or you can call us on 0800 1111, free and without it showing up on any bills.

Take care,

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