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bullying

im being bullied and i dont know what to do noone knows ive not told them could u please give me soloutions xx
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Sam

Hello,

Thank you for your letter.

Being bullied can be really frightening and it can make you feel lonely and scared, so I’m really glad you’ve decided to ask for help. No-one has the right to bully you and make you feel this way. People can be bullied for many different reasons, or for no particular reason at all. You have done nothing wrong, it isn’t your fault that you are being bullied.

You don’t have to deal with this on your own, there are a few different things you could do to get some support. Perhaps you might first of all think about telling a friend about what is happening. If you have some good friends, they might be able to help you stay away from the bullies.

You could also talk to a teacher about the bullies. The teachers at school have a duty to look after you. You could ask to look at the Anti-Bullying-Policy at your school, every school should have one. It should explain exactly what people at school are supposed to do if they find out someone is being bullied. If you find that you don’t get enough help at first, it’s important to keep asking, until things get better. Bullying isn’t something you should just have to “put up with”.

If you don’t feel ready to talk to a teacher, maybe tell your parents or an adult at home. Being bullied can often leave people feeling low in confidence, but talking through your feelings about what is happening can help to build your confidence back up.

You will find more ideas on the Explore page about bullying and you could also try looking at bullybusters for support and advice. Finally, the Beat Bullying website gives you the chance to talk to other young people who have been trained to help.

A ChildLine counsellor is always here for you if you don’t feel you can talk to anyone else. They can help you think about how you might stop the bullying in your particular situation. You can call them on 0800 1111 (this is a freephone number that does not show on your phone bill) or you can log in for a 1-2-1 chat with a counsellor through the website.

Having the courage to tell someone that you are being bullied is a really good start, well done.

Take care for now

Sam

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