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Bullied because i am different

I am new in England and I donnt know english that much, I first started school I was alone , a boy offered me friendship we were friends but then she had girlfriend , her GF thought that I was going out with him.. they started to pick on me , right now I am okay with them but the problem I feel lonely no one wants to be my friend because of that I tried but I feel lonely no one wants me .. I always eat alone..I don-t want to talk to any one because my english is so bad I say things without meaning and people will make fun of me

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Hello,

Thank you for your letter - you’ve explained yourself perfectly. You have gone through some tough changes recently. It can be really hard to move country, get used to a completely different language and meet new friends all at once. I can hear that you’re feeling really alone at the moment and worried about anyone making fun of you. 

Nobody has the right to pick on another person or to make them feel bad about themselves. When someone is mean or nasty to someone over and over it’s called bullying. Bullying can affect someone’s confidence and self-esteem. All bullying is wrong and I’m glad that you told me about what’s happening.

Your school has a responsibility to support anyone who is experiencing bullying. You might want to consider telling a teacher that you trust about what’s happening and what it’s been like for you.

Sometimes, explaining to classmates how it makes you feel when they pick on you can help them look at their own actions and see how it’s affecting you. You might want to think about what you would like to say to the other pupils about your experience of coming to England and starting a new school. Practising out loud in a mirror can help someone feel more confident about saying things out loud.

It sounds like feeling alone is very hard, especially when you are eating lunch on your own. You might want to think about joining an after school or lunchtime club where you can meet some new people similar to you. Smiling and making eye contact with people is always a good way to let them know that you are friendly and open, even if you don’t speak the same language.

ChildLine counsellors are always here for you. You are welcome to talk to someone at ChildLine about how all of this is making you feel and to explore any options. You can call on 0800 1111, or if you'd rather you can send an email or log on for a 1-2-1 chat.

Hope some of this helps.

Take care,
Sam 

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