hi im liv, im only 13 and just about to go into year9.
for the past year or so ive struggled with my body image. everytime i look in the mirror, i’d always turn to the side and see what my stomach looks like, and then i would ‘suck it in’ to see how it would look the way i want it. my friends and family see me as a thin or skinny girl, but i cant see myself that way. i compare myself to models or other people my age, sometimes even my best friend or my sister (whos 19 and has a perfect figure). i also struggle with my face shap, face ‘fat‘ and my forehead. i always try to tense my jaw (if that makes sense?) to see my jawline. it works on my left and a little bit on my right. ive googled tons of ways to loose face ‘fat’ too.
as i mentioned in the beginning, im only 13 and my body is still changing due to puberty and moving on to adulthood. ive had a boy, my age, stop me in the school corridor and call me ‘flat’ they thought it was funny and i just walked off. i can be a bit sensitive so i didnt show any emotion but it was all in my head how i felt after that comment. i kept wishing i had the ‘beauty standard body’.
anyways, the point of this is that im sick of all of this and i want to try focus on my education a little more but its hard when i have all of this going on in my head. i want to speak to my mum about it but i know i’ll end up crying in the first sentence. i also would like to ask her if i can get tested for BDD (body dysmorphic disorder).
does anyone have any tips/advice on how to tell and ask her, and also how should i start the conversation?
sorry this is so long, any help is appreciated <3 - liv