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Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who have similar problems to you.

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What you need to know:

  • Sam reads every letter, but can only respond to a few each week
  • Sam's replies are public, never private, so others can read them
  • Sam will remove personal info from your letter to keep it anonymous
  • if yours is chosen, you'll see it under one of the topics below
  • if you need support now or want to talk privately, contact a counsellor for free on 0800 1111.

latest letters

Guilt

Hi Sam i feel so guilty that i have cheated on 2 of my mock exams. The techer used papers that had the markscheme rel...

Stress and anxiety

Hi Sam it's Stephanie. I am really stressed about my exams that are coming up and I really need help but I don't feel...

Munchausen

dear sam firstly, please don't judge me on what i am about to say. i am a bit worried that i might have slight muncha...

Being forced to marry

Dear Sam, I am a Muslim and I will be forced into a marriage in 2 years, they verbally abuse me and on rare occasions...

Transgender sex.

My boyfriend and I want to have sex. We are both transgender boys and hate our bodies. We have spoken about these kin...

Accidentally saw something bad

Hi Sam, When I was on youtube I came across a video of the bottom part of someone’s face and their top was a bit low ...

Privacy

Hi Sam, I was wondering about my privacy/independence rights. I’m a 15 year old living in Northern Ireland and I get ...

Message from Sam

You can write to me about anything and I read every single letter, but I choose just a few to answer on my page each week. I’m sorry if I don’t answer your letter but I always try and write my response to help anyone with a similar problem, so there is probably a letter that I’ve answered before which might help. If you definitely want a response you can always talk to one of our counsellors and they will always be there.

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Not feeling right...

Recently I have not been myself, in failing at school, I hate being at home and my friendships keep falling apart, I ...

Fitting in

Hi i am a 11 year old girl and i do not fit in ANYWHERE. I guess i am a bit weird i always wear black and sometimes i...

Death and grieving

hi sam receny my sister's friend's mum died of a brain tumour. Even thought i didnt really know her, i got very upset...

Suicide in a game

Hi Sam, Recently I have been playing a video game and there is a character in it called Kate. She gets bullied and tr...

I don’t know how to feel

I was raped by my partner of 4 years he was remanded for 4 months but was found not guilty at trial since then I was ...

Tiredness

Hi Sam. i couldnt find any letters on this topic. I am always so tired, im in y10 and always am so stressed i cant sl...

Feminism

Hi Sam, I've always known that I believe in equality but only recently have I called myself a feminist. I am a girl w...

Grief

Hi Sam, Thank you for reading my letter. So December last year my boyfriend died due to an unexplained reason, just s...

Love Being Alone

Hi Sam, This is my first time doing this, so I hope I'm not bothering you. I am 12, and I am slightly concerned becau...

Autism and summer

hello i have aspergers and it just the start of the summer holiday. most people my age are relieved but i get more mi...

Sport and confidence

Hi Sam I wanted to write to you as im a bit upset with sport as I go to a club and I dont really fit in as I get lauf...

Moved house to a new location

Ive just moved home with my family to a completely new area we have been here for around 3 weeks now and even though ...

Moods.

Hi Sam. I’ve been getting incredibly snappy for my age and I feel like my parents absolutely hate me for it. But I ca...

Can’t sleep

Hi Sam, this has been happening for at least a year now, but I‘ve been struggling to sleep when i go to bed every nig...

Coping with anger and autism

Hi sam. Im finding it really hard to even talk to you about anything so i am proud of myself for doing it. I suffer f...

Loss of my niece

Hi Sam. My niece died when I was 10 and a lot of people were giving my sister abuse because the press published the w...

My favourite musician has died

Hi Sam. I’m 13 and recently one of my favourite music artists has died and I really am struggling to deal with it. I ...

Anger

Hi Sam, I wanted to write to you about anger. At home I can get into trouble for something small(It sometimes stops h...

Grieving a terminal illness

Hey Sam I've got something I'd like to know ? Well my mum has cancer and it's not curable my mum hasn't passed away y...

I hate my ethnicity

I know what your thinking. That i should love myself and my skin tone. But i am Caucasian. So you are now thinking i ...

Can you help me stay happy?

I am constantly getting upset. I don’t even know why. Sometimes it is because people are being mean but sometimes it ...