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Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who have similar problems to you. 

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I keep telling lies

hey sam for a really long time ive been telling lies. i lie to my teachers and tell them i understand or when called ...

School and me

First day back at school was horrible people laughed at me threw the hallways and called me fat. ive cut myself befor...

Homelessness

Ive been homeless since I was 15. I'm now 18. I've been stayin on sofas and sometimes on park benches or in the town ...

My mum always hits me

Dear Sam ​ My mum always hits me even when its a sall thing like i have forgotten to wash my face, she pulls my hair ...

I have been having flashbacks

hi, ive been having flashbacks recently to all the bad things that have happened in my like, like my dad dying, and b...

Pressure about doing piano

Hi Sam i have been doing piano for a couple of years now but I am really bord of it and music isn't really my passion...

Message from Sam

Food is a part of life for us every day, but for some people this is a real problem. I’d be really interested to hear from you if you’re having problems with eating or your body image.

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I keep telling lies

hey sam for a really long time ive been telling lies. i lie to my teachers and tell them i understand or when called ...

My dad's death at Christmas

hi my dad died of a sodden death only at 37 and im finding it really hard to cope at the moment with christmas coming...

Grief

Hey. Recently my elder brother died, three months ago to be exact. I don't know what it is, but I feel isolated with ...

Confused about Scandals

My fave singer was acused of raping her best friend. I know that what she did was discusting and horrible, but i stil...

Numb

Dear Sam, For the last few years now, i feel nothing. Like, no anger, no excitement, no fear. Sometimes i feel sad, b...

moving out at 16!

Hi, I'm 16 and I was planning on moving out and I wanted to know if your parents didn't want you to move out can they...

Summer Holidays

Hey Sam. Where I live the summer holidays has just started and in all honesty im worried instead of excited. I cant f...

I feel scared when I go to bed

Every night I feel scared before going to bed, after all these bad things happening I always think up scary theories...

Growing up

Dear Sam, I'm going to turn 18 in a few weeks and I'm really worried about it. I still feel like a child and I'm worr...

Bereavement.

My best friend passed away when I was 13; we were very close. She was buried in a cemetery near where she lived. I've...

Worried about ISIS

Hello i am worrying myself i really don't want a war to break out in Isis but i really need to talk to someone...

I think I love my Therapist?

Um ever since I was 11 I have had really messy relationships. I started seeing my first psychologist about a year ago...

My dad has breast cancer

Hi sam I dont no how to start this but here ​Ok so 2 weeks ago my mum and dad told me and my brother my dad has breas...

drama class

I don't want to go to drama class and my parents are forcing me to go. It is three hours. I told them I didn't want t...

Teachers and depression

I very recently told my teachers about my depression that has been happening for 5 months. The ones who I have talked...

Death

How do you get over the death of a parent?

Is this right??

I have known this guy for over a year and now he seems to notice me a lot more. He is a player but I seem to like him...

My daddy

My daddy died around 2 and a half years ago. I recently have been wondering how I can honour his memory in some way, ...

Depression

Hello, I have recently been feeling down and not enjoying things like decorating my Christmas Tree i hope you can help

Cannot Sleep

I literally cant get to sleep. I play on my phone or look on this website at night. I think I have insomnia!

Emotionless

Hi, Firstly I don't know if I should even be on here since my situation isn't really serious, but I feel invisible an...

Being mistaken as a girl often

In skl I often get mistaken as a girl, I'm a boy though. I even wear a male blazer for skl but people still think I'm...

Trans help

Hi so I'm trans ftm and am out to everyone and my school is really supportive but I don't really feel much better tha...

Coping with losing someone

Hi. I'm currently 13 years old, but when I was 11, I found my mum unconscious at the bottom of the stairs. She's been...

Going into care

Dear Sam, I am going into a kids home soon and wondered if you could tell me a little bit more about it. My Mum had d...