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Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who've had similar problems to you. 

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latest letters

Internet friends

hi there recently ive started talking to someoene online and they are my age and we really want to meet up somewhere ...

YouTuber and my parents

I love to watch a really funny youtuber who unfortunately swears LOADS. I'm trying to hide it from my parents, but so...

Bereavement.

My best friend passed away when I was 13; we were very close. She was buried in a cemetery near where she lived. I've...

job interview

aughhh i have my first job interview im so nervous what if it gose wong!!!!!

Work experience and the phone

Hello, ​ I have work experience coming and am hoping to become a vet. I have anxiety, especislly when it comes to tal...

Contraception

I'm 14 and I've been thinking about going to my local clinic to get 'the pill' are they allowed to give it without pa...

Message from Sam

Lots of people are unhappy with the way they look. For some people, it can become a real problem. I’d be really interested in hearing from anyone who has an issue with their body and how that affects your feelings.

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Growing up

Dear Sam, I'm going to turn 18 in a few weeks and I'm really worried about it. I still feel like a child and I'm worr...

Bereavement.

My best friend passed away when I was 13; we were very close. She was buried in a cemetery near where she lived. I've...

Worried about ISIS

Hello i am worrying myself i really don't want a war to break out in Isis but i really need to talk to someone...

I think I love my Therapist?

Um ever since I was 11 I have had really messy relationships. I started seeing my first psychologist about a year ago...

My dad has breast cancer

Hi sam I dont no how to start this but here ​Ok so 2 weeks ago my mum and dad told me and my brother my dad has breas...

drama class

I don't want to go to drama class and my parents are forcing me to go. It is three hours. I told them I didn't want t...

Teachers and depression

I very recently told my teachers about my depression that has been happening for 5 months. The ones who I have talked...

Death

How do you get over the death of a parent?

Is this right??

I have known this guy for over a year and now he seems to notice me a lot more. He is a player but I seem to like him...

My daddy

My daddy died around 2 and a half years ago. I recently have been wondering how I can honour his memory in some way, ...

Depression

Hello, I have recently been feeling down and not enjoying things like decorating my Christmas Tree i hope you can help

Cannot Sleep

I literally cant get to sleep. I play on my phone or look on this website at night. I think I have insomnia!

Emotionless

Hi, Firstly I don't know if I should even be on here since my situation isn't really serious, but I feel invisible an...

Being mistaken as a girl often

In skl I often get mistaken as a girl, I'm a boy though. I even wear a male blazer for skl but people still think I'm...

Trans help

Hi so I'm trans ftm and am out to everyone and my school is really supportive but I don't really feel much better tha...

Coping with losing someone

Hi. I'm currently 13 years old, but when I was 11, I found my mum unconscious at the bottom of the stairs. She's been...

Going into care

Dear Sam, I am going into a kids home soon and wondered if you could tell me a little bit more about it. My Mum had d...

Now what?..

Im in this relationship that is extremely unhealthy. I was into drugs and I cheated on him multiple times. But after ...

lying

Ive lied many times about some really horrible stuff and some people wont forgive me i need to stop lying! why is it ...

I worry too much

I wondered if you could help me on how to stop worrying. I always worry about things i don't need to and I don't kn...

My so called friend

My so called friend called me fat yesterday, I have been told this many times I try so hard to lose weight.