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Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who have similar problems to you.

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  • Sam's replies are public, never private, so others can read them
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  • if yours is chosen, you'll see it under one of the topics below
  • if you need support now or want to talk privately, contact a counsellor for free on 0800 1111.

latest letters

Dad is HIV positive

I have just discovered that my dad is HIV positive - and has been for ages, but he hasn't told me. ​ I don't know if ...

Fixed term exclusion

hi sam, i was excluded for a fixed term in yr 10 i am extremly ashamed of what i did as i was verbally hurtfall to a ...

Sexuality problems

hi sam,this is my first time writing a letter . im a 14 yo boy and im currently in a relationship with a girl who i t...

Transgender

i have always preferred being a girl to a boy and love crossdressing, my parents do not like it. They threaten to tak...

Message from Sam

You can write to me about anything and I read every single letter, but I choose just a few to answer on my page each week. I’m sorry if I don’t answer your letter but I always try and write my response to help anyone with a similar problem, so there is probably a letter that I’ve answered before which might help. If you definitely want a response you can always talk to one of our counsellors and they will always be there.

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Feminism

Hi Sam, I've always known that I believe in equality but only recently have I called myself a feminist. I am a girl w...

Grief

Hi Sam, Thank you for reading my letter. So December last year my boyfriend died due to an unexplained reason, just s...

Love Being Alone

Hi Sam, This is my first time doing this, so I hope I'm not bothering you. I am 12, and I am slightly concerned becau...

Autism and summer

hello i have aspergers and it just the start of the summer holiday. most people my age are relieved but i get more mi...

Sport and confidence

Hi Sam I wanted to write to you as im a bit upset with sport as I go to a club and I dont really fit in as I get lauf...

Moved house to a new location

Ive just moved home with my family to a completely new area we have been here for around 3 weeks now and even though ...

Moods.

Hi Sam. I’ve been getting incredibly snappy for my age and I feel like my parents absolutely hate me for it. But I ca...

Can’t sleep

Hi Sam, this has been happening for at least a year now, but I‘ve been struggling to sleep when i go to bed every nig...

Coping with anger and autism

Hi sam. Im finding it really hard to even talk to you about anything so i am proud of myself for doing it. I suffer f...

Loss of my niece

Hi Sam. My niece died when I was 10 and a lot of people were giving my sister abuse because the press published the w...

My favourite musician has died

Hi Sam. I’m 13 and recently one of my favourite music artists has died and I really am struggling to deal with it. I ...

Anger

Hi Sam, I wanted to write to you about anger. At home I can get into trouble for something small(It sometimes stops h...

Grieving a terminal illness

Hey Sam I've got something I'd like to know ? Well my mum has cancer and it's not curable my mum hasn't passed away y...

I hate my ethnicity

I know what your thinking. That i should love myself and my skin tone. But i am Caucasian. So you are now thinking i ...

Can you help me stay happy?

I am constantly getting upset. I don’t even know why. Sometimes it is because people are being mean but sometimes it ...

I keep telling lies

hey sam for a really long time ive been telling lies. i lie to my teachers and tell them i understand or when called ...

My dad's death at Christmas

hi my dad died of a sodden death only at 37 and im finding it really hard to cope at the moment with christmas coming...

Grief

Hey. Recently my elder brother died, three months ago to be exact. I don't know what it is, but I feel isolated with ...

Confused about Scandals

My fave singer was acused of raping her best friend. I know that what she did was discusting and horrible, but i stil...

Numb

Dear Sam, For the last few years now, i feel nothing. Like, no anger, no excitement, no fear. Sometimes i feel sad, b...

moving out at 16!

Hi, I'm 16 and I was planning on moving out and I wanted to know if your parents didn't want you to move out can they...

Summer Holidays

Hey Sam. Where I live the summer holidays has just started and in all honesty im worried instead of excited. I cant f...