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Something on your mind? Or need some support?

Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who have similar problems to you.

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You can ask me about anything you want, there's nothing too big or small. I read every single letter but I can only answer a few each week. My replies are published here on my page.

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What you need to know:

  • Sam reads every letter, but can only respond to a few each week
  • Sam's replies are public, never private, so others can read them
  • Sam will remove personal info from your letter to keep it anonymous
  • if yours is chosen, you'll see it under one of the topics below
  • if you need support now or want to talk privately, contact a Childline counsellor.

latest letters

My dad

can my dad make me quit my job? im 16 and work 2 jobs

legal dating advice

Hi I'm 17 and nearly 18 but I'm talking to a 13 nearly 14 year old. we both like each other and have both agreed on n...

Fear of being touched

Dear Sam, Whenever someone touches me I jump away, flinch, (one time) I just started shaking and/or freeze tensely. I...

No space at home

Dear Sam, I would like to ask you about how to fix the relationship in my house with my parents. Lately they have bee...

Social Media drama

Hi, my friends keep falling out with each other on Snapchat. Do you have any advice about not getting drawn into the ...

confidentiality promise

If someone told a counsellor about suicidal thoughts, would they have to tell someone. Even if there just thoughts or...

Message from Sam

You can write to me about anything you want and I read every single message sent. I can only reply to a few each week and I always do this in public on my page. I’m sorry if I don’t answer your letter but it’s likely there are others just like it that I have answered before. If you want a definite response or need support then talking to a Childline counsellor is the best way to do that.

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Who do I talk to

Hi Sam. Lately I’ve been feeling like nobody likes me and I don’t have anyone I feel I can talk to. I don’t want to t...

Leaving a counsellor

Hi, there has been this problem that has been upsetting be horribly, and it might seem very weird but, I really miss ...

Child Grooming in Minecraft

Hello, Sam! It’s a pleasure to be able to talk to you. I‘m a 15 year old non-binary and I have a bit of a problem, yo...

Achieving my dream

hi sam, i really really want to be an actor as i admire other actors so much and its what i really want to do when i ...

Someone called me racist

Dear Sam, I accidentally offended someone the other day via text, and got called a few names as they were angry. One ...

Scared to go back to school

hi sam im really scared to go back school, things are going to be really different and i dont cope with change very w...

Feeling Guilt about past racism

​ With everything going on in the world I find myself really passionate to show my support of the BLM movement. I wan...

i have a question

is threatening classed as abuse, ect “ill kick your head in” “ill fuxk you up” “ill batter you” im just wondering i c...

Feeling sad during lockdown

Dear Sam, I was told I had severe anxiety in January, and I was starting to get better before the lockdown started. I...

Coronavirus outbreak

Hi Sam, I'm not sure if this is really silly or not, but I'm really worried about the Coronavirus outbreak and I can'...

scared to sleep

im too scared to sleep. every night when i go to sleep i get rlly upset and my breathing stops and i get a headache s...

Chronic illness

Hi Sam, I feel so out of contol. After being unwell for years i have finally got a diagnosis of SLE (Lupus). It's a r...

My uncle's suicide

Hi, ​ last week my uncle killed himself. he had struggled from mental health issues for a while and had attempted sui...

how do i stop overthinking

recently i have been overthinking almost everything and i dont want to and i cant stop myself. i have tried to talk t...

letter to uncle in jail

hi my grandma wants me to write my uncle a letter and he is is jail but i never really had a bond or relationship wit...

1 to 1 counselling

Hi Sam, I think I might need 1 to 1 counselling, but I’m a bit scared to get it, I don’t know why. Anyway, I have a f...

Grieving

i lost my mum when i was 8. it was a hit and run accident. i saw my mum die. birthday and key events are coming up an...