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Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who have similar problems to you. 

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  • Sam's replies are public, never private, so others can read them
  • Sam will remove personal info from your letter to keep it anonymous
  • if yours is chosen, you'll see it under one of the topics below
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latest letters

Long distance/online

this is about a boy i met online through a friend from my school and its been 3 months since we met online and we’ve ...

Homosexuality

I come from an asian background, a very traditional one. And, with my luck, my family is very homophobic and don‘t to...

Sport and confidence

Hi Sam I wanted to write to you as im a bit upset with sport as I go to a club and I dont really fit in as I get lauf...

Moved house to a new location

Ive just moved home with my family to a completely new area we have been here for around 3 weeks now and even though ...

Moods.

Hi Sam. I’ve been getting incredibly snappy for my age and I feel like my parents absolutely hate me for it. But I ca...

Abortion

Hi sam, I’ve just gone through an abortion and the after feeling is unreal I’m feeling so down and upset about everyt...

Unsafe at school

I no longer feel safe in school, since there is a boy who is perving on girls, he crawls around trying to look up the...

Message from Sam

I often have a theme that I ask people to write in about but remember that you can still write to me about anything as well. I also want to remind everyone that of the many letters I receive each week I choose just a few to answer on my page. I'm sorry if I don't answer your letter but there is probably a similar letter that I've answered before which might help. If you definitely want a response you can always talk to one of our counsellors.

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Depression

Hi Sam, for a while now I've been feeling very down and alone. At first I just assumed it was a rough patch and would...

Self harming and body image

well i have self harmed twice been to the jem center 6 times but i dont want to tell the why i do it and my body imag...

Help

I have hurt myself before but not in such a way as ot actually cut my skin. I have scratched my skin to the point whe...

please can I have some advice

I can't deal with it anymore.I have really bad anger issues and it is getting out of control.I scare my 9 year old si...

Self harm

hi sam,i need a bit of advice...ive been having a really difficult life at the moment im bulled all the time my famil...

What to tell my psychiatrist

For several years I have been very ill but no doctors have been able to diagnose me or help me with the pains and Fat...

School Counsellor

I'm seeing the school counsellor, and think I should tell her about my tendencies to self harm. Would she tell my par...

please help me

ever since year 4 i have been called names about the way i look and ceartain descions in my life. im self harming eve...

School

I was in PE the other day with fresh cuts, i walked out because the teacher was already talking to the class before i...

Left because of self harm

I really like this guy and i used to talk to him a lot and i recently told him i self harm and he completely left me ...

Self-harm

I have been self-harming for at least a year, my parents don't know. My boyfriend wants me to get proper help because...

self harm. worried

I used to self harm but my friends found out and made me promise I wouldn't do it again. I haven't but I'm going thro...

Self harm and the way I look

Lately I have been changing and people have been bugging me about it am putting me down abou it. Lets say I have been...

Scars

I self harm + a load of other mental issues. But the other day my mum bought me some bio-oil to help get rid of my sc...

Self-harm scars and summer

Hi. I've covered my arms for the past four years because of bad scarring. I haven't worn short sleeves even around my...

helping others

I recently created an anonymous instagram account just for helping and chatting to people with depression, self harm ...

Self harm

Hi, I'm a surfer and i'm starting to get to the point where I'm ready to start looking for sponsors but I'm worried, ...

Alcohol, drugs and self harm

Right. Hi Sam i am called C**** and I am nearly 16. The past few months have been really hard i have been drinking...