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Something on your mind? Or need some support?

Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who have similar problems to you. 

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What you need to know:

  • Sam reads every letter, but can only respond to a few each week
  • Sam's replies are public, never private, so others can read them
  • Sam will remove personal info from your letter to keep it anonymous
  • if yours is chosen, you'll see it under one of the topics below
  • if you need support now or want to talk privately, contact a counsellor for free on 0800 1111.

latest letters

My nan and Alzheimer's

So, My nan has Alzheimer's and I get really down because she can't remember me or my dad. and I don't know how to cop...

Alcohol

Hello I’m gonna make this short and sweet I like alcohol a lot And although I don’t drink too much as I’m only thirte...

mental health in school

i have mental health issues that are being helped by CAMHS but it has been leaving me very drained and unmotivated in...

Telling my crush the truth

I am wondering how long I should wait before I tell my crush that I have a crush on her. I have had this crush on a g...

Feminism

Hi Sam, I've always known that I believe in equality but only recently have I called myself a feminist. I am a girl w...

Message from Sam

You can write to me about anything and I read every single letter, but I choose just a few to answer on my page each week. I'm sorry if I don't answer your letter but I always try and write my response to help anyone with a similar problem, so there is probably a letter that I've answered before which might help. If you definitely want a response you can always talk to one of our counsellors and they will always be there.

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Potential OCD

Hi Sam, Im 15 and im dealing with school and stress ect. i think i have developed OCD because i do strange things for...

Coping with anger and autism

Hi sam. Im finding it really hard to even talk to you about anything so i am proud of myself for doing it. I suffer f...

Loss of my niece

Hi Sam. My niece died when I was 10 and a lot of people were giving my sister abuse because the press published the w...

Postnatal depression

Hi Sam I suffer from postnatal depression my baby is 6 mouths old and I can’t seem to cope with her please help me

My favourite musician has died

Hi Sam. I’m 13 and recently one of my favourite music artists has died and I really am struggling to deal with it. I ...

Anger

Hi Sam, I wanted to write to you about anger. At home I can get into trouble for something small(It sometimes stops h...

Grieving a terminal illness

Hey Sam I've got something I'd like to know ? Well my mum has cancer and it's not curable my mum hasn't passed away y...

Self-harm care tips

hello, I have self harmed before ( and am reciving treatment through nhs mental health services) but have recently ha...

Self harm

Hi sam i need help to stop self harming as my mums really worried but its the only way to deal with daily life what c...

Self Harm, I want to stop

i self harm and have done for months i just want to stop but i dont know how. my mum doesnt know and im scared to tel...

Fear of being sick

Hi Sam, ​I've had this phobia for 3 years now, and I don't know what to do. I can't stand anyone throwing up or me th...

I hate my ethnicity

I know what your thinking. That i should love myself and my skin tone. But i am Caucasian. So you are now thinking i ...

Can you help me stay happy?

I am constantly getting upset. I don’t even know why. Sometimes it is because people are being mean but sometimes it ...

Dealing with PTSD

Hi Sam, I was sexually assaulted for 2 years as a child by my best friends dad at sleepovers and I'm struggling with ...

Am I relapsing?

Hi Sam, ​ I've struggling with disordered eating for about 5 or 6 years now with my weight fluctuating from underweig...

Extreme fear of haircuts

Hi Sam, I am 17 and I am ashamed to say that I have a severe fear if getting haircuts, to the point I haven’t had one...

I keep telling lies

hey sam for a really long time ive been telling lies. i lie to my teachers and tell them i understand or when called ...

I have been having flashbacks

hi, ive been having flashbacks recently to all the bad things that have happened in my like, like my dad dying, and b...