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Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who have similar problems to you. 

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  • Sam's replies are public, never private, so others can read them
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latest letters

Long distance/online

this is about a boy i met online through a friend from my school and its been 3 months since we met online and we’ve ...

Homosexuality

I come from an asian background, a very traditional one. And, with my luck, my family is very homophobic and don‘t to...

Sport and confidence

Hi Sam I wanted to write to you as im a bit upset with sport as I go to a club and I dont really fit in as I get lauf...

Moved house to a new location

Ive just moved home with my family to a completely new area we have been here for around 3 weeks now and even though ...

Moods.

Hi Sam. I’ve been getting incredibly snappy for my age and I feel like my parents absolutely hate me for it. But I ca...

Abortion

Hi sam, I’ve just gone through an abortion and the after feeling is unreal I’m feeling so down and upset about everyt...

Unsafe at school

I no longer feel safe in school, since there is a boy who is perving on girls, he crawls around trying to look up the...

Message from Sam

I often have a theme that I ask people to write in about but remember that you can still write to me about anything as well. I also want to remind everyone that of the many letters I receive each week I choose just a few to answer on my page. I'm sorry if I don't answer your letter but there is probably a similar letter that I've answered before which might help. If you definitely want a response you can always talk to one of our counsellors.

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Self-harm care tips

hello, I have self harmed before ( and am reciving treatment through nhs mental health services) but have recently ha...

Self harm

Hi sam i need help to stop self harming as my mums really worried but its the only way to deal with daily life what c...

Self Harm, I want to stop

i self harm and have done for months i just want to stop but i dont know how. my mum doesnt know and im scared to tel...

Fear of being sick

Hi Sam, ​I've had this phobia for 3 years now, and I don't know what to do. I can't stand anyone throwing up or me th...

I hate my ethnicity

I know what your thinking. That i should love myself and my skin tone. But i am Caucasian. So you are now thinking i ...

Can you help me stay happy?

I am constantly getting upset. I don’t even know why. Sometimes it is because people are being mean but sometimes it ...

Dealing with PTSD

Hi Sam, I was sexually assaulted for 2 years as a child by my best friends dad at sleepovers and I'm struggling with ...

Am I relapsing?

Hi Sam, ​ I've struggling with disordered eating for about 5 or 6 years now with my weight fluctuating from underweig...

Extreme fear of haircuts

Hi Sam, I am 17 and I am ashamed to say that I have a severe fear if getting haircuts, to the point I haven’t had one...

I keep telling lies

hey sam for a really long time ive been telling lies. i lie to my teachers and tell them i understand or when called ...

I have been having flashbacks

hi, ive been having flashbacks recently to all the bad things that have happened in my like, like my dad dying, and b...

Eating Problems.

Hello Sam, For such a long time I have felt over weight and fat, I've never been self confident and after things chan...

Sleeping

im finding it rly diffcult to sleep atm as everytime i sleep i feel trapped n i see a image of a room just filled wit...

My dad's death at Christmas

hi my dad died of a sodden death only at 37 and im finding it really hard to cope at the moment with christmas coming...

I tried to make myself vomit

i really want to be thin. i tried to make myself vomit a few weeks ago, and did it again today. i know i shouldnt do ...

Grief

Hey. Recently my elder brother died, three months ago to be exact. I don't know what it is, but I feel isolated with ...

Confused about Scandals

My fave singer was acused of raping her best friend. I know that what she did was discusting and horrible, but i stil...

Numb

Dear Sam, For the last few years now, i feel nothing. Like, no anger, no excitement, no fear. Sometimes i feel sad, b...

moving out at 16!

Hi, I'm 16 and I was planning on moving out and I wanted to know if your parents didn't want you to move out can they...

Self harm

I don't know why but I can't stop self harming. Nothing bad has happened in my life but I've just started feeling num...

Friend wants to commit suicide

hi, my best friend is having a few issues at the moment and has taken it apon herself to commit suicide... i have no ...

Summer Holidays

Hey Sam. Where I live the summer holidays has just started and in all honesty im worried instead of excited. I cant f...