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What's disapline what's abuse what's the difference

My sister disaplines me  my mum does to my dad hits be when I have been naughty and pushes me to the ground what do I do please help me
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Hi there,

Thanks for your letter and for getting in touch. You’ve asked an important question about the difference between discipline and abuse, and it sounds as though you’re confused about what to do.

Abuse can mean a lot of different things such as neglect, physical, emotional or sexual abuse. It's not always easy to know if you or someone you know is being abused. But it's important to remember that nobody has the right to hurt you or make you do anything that feels wrong.

Physical abuse is when someone deliberately hurts or injures you. It can include hitting, kicking, hair pulling, beating with objects, throwing and shaking. Again, nobody has the right to hurt you in this way. 

All families are different and it can be normal for families not to get along with each other from time to time. However it's wrong for your dad to hit you and push you to the ground. Even if you feel you’ve been ‘naughty’ he still shouldn’t be doing this. 

You’ve asked what you should do. I guess that depends on what you’d like to happen. You may want to tell someone about what’s been happening, someone like a teacher or an adult you trust. They can help support you more.  

It sounds as though home might be a difficult place for you right now and I want you to know that the ChildLine counsellors are always here for you. Perhaps talking to a counsellor might help you decide what you’d like to do. You can call on 0800 1111, log on for a 1-2-1 chat or send an email.

You’ve done the right thing getting in touch. Remember we’re always here for you.

Take care,
Sam.

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