Hi there,
Thanks for your letter and for getting in touch. Youve asked an important question about the difference between discipline and abuse, and it sounds as though youre confused about what to do.
Abuse can mean a lot of different things such as neglect, physical, emotional or sexual abuse. It's not always easy to know if you or someone you know is being abused. But it's important to remember that nobody has the right to hurt you or make you do anything that feels wrong.
Physical abuse is when someone deliberately hurts or injures you. It can include hitting, kicking, hair pulling, beating with objects, throwing and shaking. Again, nobody has the right to hurt you in this way.
All families are different and it can be normal for families not to get along with each other from time to time. However it's wrong for your dad to hit you and push you to the ground. Even if you feel youve been naughty he still shouldnt be doing this.
Youve asked what you should do. I guess that depends on what youd like to happen. You may want to tell someone about whats been happening, someone like a teacher or an adult you trust. They can help support you more.
It sounds as though home might be a difficult place for you right now and I want you to know that the ChildLine counsellors are always here for you. Perhaps talking to a counsellor might help you decide what youd like to do. You can call on 0800 1111, log on for a 1-2-1 chat or send an email.
Youve done the right thing getting in touch. Remember were always here for you.
Take care,
Sam.
You can talk privately to a counsellor online or call 0800 1111 for free.
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