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My name is s***** and I got touched by a 13 year old and I'm 11 and I felt very uncomfortable and I've been depressed by it ever since and I haven't been sleeping properly so please can you help me I don't know what to do
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Hi there.

Thanks for your letter.

You’ve done really well to find the courage to write to me because it sounds like you've been struggling since the 13 year old touched you. I can hear you have felt depressed and haven’t been sleeping properly.

I want you to know that it is not okay for anyone to touch you in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable. You haven’t said where you were touched but it seems like you might be describing sexual abuse which is very wrong. It’s important to remember that it is not your fault this has happened. It’s okay to tell someone you trust about it. You can do that when you feel ready and you might find our page about talking to an adult helpful. The person you choose to tell might be a family member, a favourite teacher or any trusted adult you feel able to talk to.

I understand that it can feel really hard to talk about something like this with someone you know. You might like to try talking to a ChildLine counsellor about it first. They could help you prepare to talk to someone in your life. You can phone them free on 0800 1111, send them an email or log in for a 1-2-1 chat with a counsellor which is like instant messaging. They care about you and they are always ready to listen and support you. 

Take care,

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