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Thinking Of Committing Suicide

I've been thinking of this for a long time. I'm getting sick of getting bullied. I have been bullied every year in high school and I have just had enough of it. In year 9 it was 2 girls. They veribly bullied me throughout the whole year. In year 10 and 11 was another girl. She constantly laughed at me whenever I saw her in the corridor. I have spoken to 3 teachers about her and they haven't done anything. I have left school now as I have finished my exams but wherever I go, she is there laughing at me with her friends.

NOTE: This is an extract from a longer letter edited by Sam.

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I'm really pleased you decided to write to me, because I can hear how tough things are for you at the moment. It sounds like you've been coping with bullying for a very long time now and you've just had enough.

It's not fair that you've had to try and deal with bullying for several years. You told me that you've asked for help from three different teachers and the bullying still carries on. I imagine it was incredibly frustrating that things didn't change even after you found the courage to speak up. It seems to me that the school has let you down. Bullying should always be taken really seriously and schools have a duty to try and make it stop.

The title of your letter is "Thinking of Committing Suicide" so it sounds like things have got to the point where you feel killing yourself is the only way to stop the pain from this bullying. I want you to know that I believe that are other ways to change your situation. I certainly don't want you to kill yourself. You deserve support and encouragement to help you find a way forward - even though you may feel really alone I want you to know that you don't have to cope with this on your own.

The bullying needs to stop. It sounds like this girl and her friends live nearby and that you still see a lot of them, even though you’ve finished school. If this girl and her friends keep verbally bullying you on a regular basis then this could be considered harassment, and you could make a complaint to the police, by calling 101 or going to your local police station. Keeping a diary of what is said, when and by who could help you show the police how serious this is.

Sometimes bullies can start to make us believe the things they say are true. If we hear unkind things about ourselves often enough, it can start to really wear down our self-confidence. That can make it harder to see a positive future for yourself, but it doesn’t mean that you will always feel that way. When your self-confidence is so low that you can’t see a way forward, then asking for help is the right thing to do. Speaking to a doctor or counsellor would be a good place to start.

You are always welcome to speak to a counsellor here at ChildLine. If you feel like you are going to act on these suicidal feelings, I would really ask you to call 999 straight away, or ring 0800 1111 and speak to a counsellor first. They will want to help you find a way to stay safe and to listen to you. You might also find it useful to read the page in Explore about dealing with suicidal feelings. But it would be great for you to call even if you aren’t in immediate danger. The counsellors could help you look at your options for making changes and dealing with all the pain you’re in.

You’ve taken a really brave step forward by telling me just how hard things have been for you. ChildLine is here to support you with the next steps too. I believe there is a positive future for you.

Take care and stay safe.


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