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stop anorexia

hi Sam

 I am 17 and I think I am terning anorexic, when ever I look in the mirror I don't like what I see,and I just think I have to loos waght even thow I no I should'nt think that  and when we have diner I have to force my self to eat because other wise I would leve  all my diner every time pleas help me could you tell me some things  I could do so I can avoid becoming anorexic.

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Hi there,

I’m glad that you decided to get in touch. It’s really positive that you’ve become aware of these negative thoughts and feelings towards yourself and that you are asking for some support and ideas to help look after yourself.

It sounds like you’ve become quite worried about weight and can feel quite uncomfortable about eating since you feel like you have to force yourself to eat. It also seems like your confidence and self-esteem could be quite low right now since you are not feeling good about yourself when you look in the mirror.

It’s good to hear that you are managing to eat your dinner although it sounds difficult for you not be able to relax and enjoy it. We need the nutrients from our food in order to grow, develop, function and survive. When someone is not getting enough to eat, it can affect them both physically and emotionally.

Sometimes it can be hard to see ourselves as others see us. Someone might feel large when actually they are very slim. You might want to consider speaking to someone like your GP or school nurse about what’s healthy for your height and age. They could also help talk to you about eating healthy and how much you should be eating in a day.

You haven’t told me about whether anything has happened or changed to make you feel this way about yourself. Sometimes talking to someone you trust about difficult thoughts, feeling or situations can be a good first step towards getting the support you need to cope better over time.

There is an organisation supporting people with eating disorders called Beat that you might want to get in touch with – they have a lot of good advice on their website and a helpline for people looking for advice and information.

ChildLine is always a safe place to come and talk about things. You can always talk to a counsellor about anything that’s affecting you. You may also find it useful to talk to other people on our message boards. It's a safe way to speak to other young people anonymously.

I hope some of this is helpful.

Take care,

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