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started my period

I don't know what to do. I am 10 years old and I have just started my period. It is really difficult because I don't want anyone to know but people are going to notice at some point. Why does this have to happen to me? I just don't know what to do. Thanks    
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Hi there,

Puberty happens to everyone and for girls this means periods will start happening. For some people, puberty can begin as early as 9 or 10. But other people might not start until they're 16 or older. No matter what age you have periods it’s okay to tell someone. This will mean you can get the things you need and to be supported.

When periods begin you’ll start to see a small amount of blood coming from your vagina for a few days about once a month. At first it might happen at odd times, and it might not seem very regular. But eventually it will probably settle down into a pattern.

To stop that blood from going onto your clothes and underwear, you can use things called tampons or sanitary towels to soak up the blood. You can buy these from pharmacies or even at the supermarket.

To help you find the right ones for you, it might help to tell someone you trust about it. It might feel a bit embarrassing at first. But remember that if it’s an adult woman you’re talking to then she will have gone through the same thing herself.

The best people to tell would be those who look after you at home – like your parents or carers. If you don’t feel able to tell them then your school will probably have a nurse or someone like that who you can talk to.

Whatever happens just remember that it’s always okay to talk about periods. There’s nothing to be ashamed of. It might help to look on the message boards where there is a discussion on puberty for girls.

Take care,

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