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Hello E*,
Thank you for writing to me about this.
It sounds as though youre feeling unsure about who else you can talk to and I agree that telling someone is a good way to avoid bottling up your emotions. Many young people have told me that talking to someone they trust really helps.
Its really good that you're looking for ways to cope. You could try letting out your feelings by writing a diary, or trying other creative activities like painting or playing music. Some people also find exercise is a good way to release tense feelings, while others use a hobby or interest to help them.
I understand that people self-harm for different reasons and that it can be hard to stop. You have done really well managing to stop self-harming in the past. Try to think about what used to help you cope at times when you felt like hurting yourself in the past. It may be useful to read our page about self-harm for ideas about other ways to cope. If there is anyone who helps you cope with depression and anxiety, you could think about letting them know that you have been feeling the urge to self-harm more often recently. You can also read about more ways to cope with anxiety.
It sounds like your mums reaction when you told her you self-harmed was disappointing for you. Its understandable that you hoped she would be there for you. If youre finding your relationship with your mum stressful you could post a message on the Home and Family message board to ask other young people how they have coped with arguments at home. You can also read more about family relationships here.
It sounds like you realise that you sometimes blame yourself for things that are not your fault if you would like to talk more about anything that is happening at home, you can talk to a ChildLine counsellor online or on the phone at any time.
Take care,
Sam
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