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Self harm help :)

I don't know what to do I have school injections soon . I don't want anyone to find I self harm because 1. My close friend self harms and if people found put I self harmed it would seem like I was attention seeking . 2. I would get slagged by my family and class . 3.some of my friends are protective if they found out it would be worse . Don't know of I should tell any one because the only person who doesn't judge me , won't talk to me anymore.
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Hi there,

I’m glad you took the time to write and tell me about how you self-harm and that you don’t want anyone to find out about it. It’s brave of you to tell me this and I really appreciate your honesty. I can understand how you’re worried about the upcoming school injections and whether an adult will see signs of self-harm when it’s your turn to get an injection.

From what you’ve told me, you’re most worried that people are going to judge you for harming yourself and that it’s going to make things worse for you. Everyone has different opinions on self-harm but it’s yours that matters most. The better you understand it yourself, the easier it could be to explain to someone else.

I wonder if talking to someone about your self-harm without being judged would help you to talk more openly to others about it. ChildLine can give you that space where you can say whatever you feel comfortable with. Maybe you can think about talking to us by phone, 1-2-1 chat or email.

We also have a lot of information on self-harm here on our website. You might also want to check out our message boards on self-harm, where young people post messages to support each another.

I hope reading messages from other young people who have struggled with the same feelings and issues you’re dealing with will help you feel a bit less alone right now.

Thank you for your honesty and for sending this letter.

Take care,


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