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I'm sorry to bring it up, but I hate puberty. I got my period when I was 8! Every time it's really heavy and I get really bad cramps and I'm always bloated. We went to the doctors but they said it was just natural and I was too young for professional treatment. I'm now 14 and I still deal with the same thing every 3 WEEKS. I'm getting bullied for it, too. What shall I say or do?
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Hi there

Sometimes periods can be painful or uncomfortable. And really hard to deal with every month. Problems with periods often fix themselves after a while, but sometimes you may need to see a doctor to get help. If you aren’t able to take any medication then it’s important to find other ways to cope and make sure they don’t stop you getting on with your day-to-day life.

Everyone is different and so every woman experiences different periods. Some women have heavier periods than others. Sometimes the pain and discomfort that comes with a period might be so much that you need to take medication to help you get through it. This could be painkillers or may even be something like the contraceptive pill, which can help with period problems. Either way it would be important to talk to a doctor first.

You have already seen a doctor, but maybe now that you’re older there could be more options available to you. So it’s possibly worth going back to see them. In the meantime though it seems like you need to find a way of making those few days that you’re on your period a little more comfortable. If it’s not going to go away on its own yet and you can’t get help from a doctor, then you can at least do things to make yourself feel better.

Try planning ahead for when your period comes and making sure you have planned things that might help take your mind off your period. Only you know what you might enjoy doing during the time of your period, but if you have things to look forward to both during and just after your period finishes, it might help you to feel a little better about it. Our page about periods has tips to cope like using a hot water bottle and doing gentle exercise.

Nobody should be bullying you for any reason. I give a lot of advice about bullying in some of my other letters and our page about bullying might also help you. Remember that you can always talk to one of our counsellors about it if you need to.

Thanks for the letter, take care.

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