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Not being able to think

I have rencently been having some big family know about it but now they won't leave me alone. I know there worried but there always trying to get me to talk and be with one of them at all times. I know that talking helps but I can't cope with all this talking espially as it makes me feel really really uncomfortable.i also like to be on my own sometimes as Iam not a people person but now because there so worried I can't get five minutes alone.they say it will make the situation better but I don't think all this talking will make it better espially as I literally have to force it out.i would like to speak to them an ask them to leave me alone a little but don't know what to say?

i can't think please help.

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Hi there,

Thanks for your letter. I’m pleased you’ve written in as I can hear you’re having a really difficult time right now. You have taken an important first step in contacting me.

It sounds like your family are very caring but that this caring has become overwhelming for you since they learned about your problems. I can hear how you know talking helps but that you also need lots of space and alone time and that your families support can feel very intrusive at the moment and is stopping you from having that precious time to yourself. 

You’ve said yourself that you don’t know what to say to your family and it sounds like they might not really know how best to deal with the situation with you. Maybe it would help if you could all talk and you could tell them how you would like them to help you and what works and what doesn’t. You could also share how you need your own space and time but I’m wondering if they might need to know that you’ll let them know when you need them. It is important to choose the right time and setting to do this and you will know what will work best for you.

It might help to talk this through with one of the counsellors at ChildLine. They can support you in general but you could also talk about how you might approach your family and what you might want to say. You can ring them on 0800 1111 (calls are free and won’t show up on your bills) or you could log on for a 1-2-1 chat. You can also send emails once you’ve set up an account but it can take up to 24 hours to reply to these.

Take care,


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