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I am 10 years old and I am really sad most of the time. My family is fine it's just we moved house and I miss my friends soooooooooo much I cry every night. My mum and dad are happy in our new house so I can't really talk to them. :(
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Hi,

Thanks for your letter. It sounds like this is a really tough time for you. I can hear how sad you are feeling and it seems like you don’t have anyone to talk to about that at the moment. You did the right thing to write to me, expressing your feelings is really important.

Moving to a new place can be exciting. Exploring a new house, a new city, a new neighbourhood can be really fun. Meeting new people can also be a great experience because it can give you the chance to learn new things and make more friends.

On the other hand, moving can be really tough. Leaving the places you know, your school and your friends can be really sad, and you don’t have to hide that you feel this way. It can, and does take time to get used to being in a new place and it’s okay to talk about this. Have you made plans about how you can keep in touch with your friends? I realise it’s not the same as being able to see each other in person, but phones and computers give us lots of ways to keep up with the people you care about. I’m not sure how far away your friends are, but perhaps you could visit them from time to time or arrange for them to visit you?

I can hear that you are saying that your parents are really happy about the move, but that doesn’t mean that what you feel isn’t important. I wonder how you usually get on with your parents? Do you feel that you could talk to them about this? You did really well writing to me today. Do you think that maybe you can write a letter to your parents about how you are feeling?

What you feel is important and it’s always okay to say what’s going on inside. Maybe you can give talking to your parents a try and if you need to talk again you can always contact ChildLine by calling 0800 1111

Take care,

Sam

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