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Hi,
Im really glad youve written to me. Self-harm is not something you should feel dirty or ashamed about. It sounds like it was a really big step for you speaking out and telling your boyfriend. It was the right thing to do and I think it was really brave of you.
It sounds like your boyfriend is finding it hard to understand. But that doesnt mean you shouldnt have told him. He might think that he's helping you by saying those things to you but really it sounds like he is just upsetting you more. You deserve to have support for your self-harm and talking to people you trust like the nurse and your boyfriend is a good way to try and get that support.
You might find it helpful to look at our info about self-harm together with your boyfriend. You could also try writing him a letter which explains all of your feelings and what support you would like from him. This could help him understand.
Its important to remember that you deserve support. And you have taken a really huge and brave step in telling your boyfriend. But if he cant understand then its not your fault.
Its really important to carry on talking to the nurse or someone else you trust. Or you can come to ChildLine and talk with one of our counsellors. They are always here to listen and support you 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
Take Care,
Sam
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