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Hi C*,
Thanks for your message telling me about your friend. You sound worried that your friend is continuing to self-harm, but I want you to know that it is positive that she is trying to stop and has been able to stop for some time. Many people have to try more than once to stop self-harming and it is important for your friend to know that this is normal. She has done really well so far.
From what you have told me, you are being a very supportive friend. Having gone through the experience yourself, you will know that stopping is a difficult thing. Every person experiences self-harm differently and its important that you realise that you cant make your friend stop self-harming. Only your friend can make the decision to do this. It is important that you are there to help and support her.
You said that your friend has spoken to a counsellor, but its unclear if this is a counsellor at ChildLine or a counsellor somewhere else. If she isnt already in contact with ChildLine, maybe you could suggest it to her. A ChildLine counsellor would support your friend by talking about safety and looking at what might be triggering the self-harm. Talking to a counsellor at ChildLine could also help your friend find ways to cope. You and your friend can find out more about the way ChildLine works.
We have more information about helping a friend who self-harms and coping techniques in our self-harm section. If you feel you would like to talk more about this, you can contact a counsellor yourself by phoning for free on 0800 1111, logging on for a 1-2-1 chat or by sending an email.
Take care for now,
Sam
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