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i'm a muslim & i recently started wearing the headscarf cos i feel really passionate about my religion. the trouble is everyone treats me weird now, like i'm a different person even my best friends seem like they're treding on eggshells around me, i feel like i need to get rid of my scarf but i don't want to give up myy religion and my parents would be so disappoited.. please help me i have no idea what 2 do!

H xx

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Hi there,

Thanks for being brave enough to write this letter to me.

I can tell how important your religion is and how passionate you are about it. It’s really great to be able to feel passionate about something the way you do. Wearing your headscarf seems like one of your ways to show how strongly you do feel about your religion. I understand that it can sometimes take courage to stand up for your beliefs. At the same time, those beliefs are a part of who you are. 

I hear that your friends are acting differently around you, as if they are not quite sure how to behave. That sounds difficult because you are still you, with or without your headscarf. I’m wondering if it is like this at the moment, because this feels new to them. No one should make you feel bad about your religion, or the way you dress and if they do, then it is bullying. How would you feel about explaining a bit more to them about your religion and what it really means to you?

If this feels too hard, what do you think about speaking to a ChildLine counsellor? You could do this by ringing for free on 0800 1111, or having a 1-2-1 chat online.

You might find it interesting to look at the ChildLine message boards, where young people share their thoughts, and feelings about similar situations. It might help you to get some ideas.

It might also be useful to have a look at Muslim Youth Helpline which is a website offering free and confidential emotional support. They can talk to young people about the social pressures they sometimes face. They have a free helpline which is 0808 808 2008.

Thanks again for writing in.

Take care,


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