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Okay so I have had quite a few problems quite recently, my parents have decided to split up, my papa had been put in hospital for depression and now I have just found out that there is something in my dads blood or something and that it doesn't look too good but the worst thing is that no one has told me, I had to find it out all by myself and quite recently after SOME meals I have started too make myself puke it up I'm really worried and just need some advice on what to do cause I have been that sad that I'm done to the point where I'm considering self harm again
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Hi there,

When somebody you care about is going through a difficult time, it can be worrying and upsetting for you as well. I get the feeling that it felt really bad for you that you weren't told about your dad and I can hear that you wish people had let you know. It also seems like your parents splitting up and your dad's depression have had big effects on how you're feeling. 

I'm concerned to hear that you've been making yourself sick after meals because this can put your health in danger. After everything you've been through, you could do with some support right now. Have a think about which people in your life you trust and whether there's somebody you’d be able to tell. Perhaps you could talk to a friend, family member or somebody at school. You can also always speak to a Childline counsellor when you've got things on your mind. 

When you're making yourself sick it's a good idea to get medical help, and you can start this by speaking to your doctor. I can't say for certain what your doctor will do next, but usually doctors talk to you about things that could help such as having counselling or seeing a specialist.

If it feels difficult to know where to start when you go to talk to the doctor, remember that there's a handy checklist builder at Doc Ready. It helps you make a list of the things you'd like to say. That way when you have an appointment with your doctor you can read from it, or if you're finding it very tough to talk, you can always start by handing them the list.

I noticed that you’re thinking about starting self-harm again. Part of recovering from self-harm can include having thoughts about it or actually doing it again. It doesn't mean that you're back at the beginning. Doctors can help to support you with recovery from self-harm too. We have a page of self-harm coping techniques which you might find useful. It could also help to look at the YoungMinds website which has some advice for getting support for self-harm.

You've done well to get in touch and let me know about how you're feeling. I really hope you can get the support you need.

Take care,

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