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just sad

Hi , so when i was 1 my dad died and usally round xmas it pops into my head so basically i just need some advice on how to get rid of this
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Hi there,

When somebody dies we might feel sad, angry, numb, confused or frightened. Everybody is different and there is no right or wrong way to feel. Over time, feelings of grief lessen but we may still think about that person, especially at times of the year when family and friends get together, like birthdays and Christmas.

Your dad died when you were a baby but he was a significant person in your life, so it’s natural for you to think about him. If you’re curious about your dad you could ask people who knew him to tell you about their memories of him, or look at photographs of him or things that used to belong to him.

Some people like to keep a special box or create a space to remind them of the person who died. You may want to do something like this, but it’s also okay if you don’t want to.

Any thoughts and feelings you have about your dad are okay and you don’t have to put pressure on yourself to get rid of them. Accept them and express them in any way that feels comfortable to you. Write things down, draw, cry or talk to an adult or friend who you can trust. Remember, you can always talk to a Childline counsellor in confidence.

Take care,

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