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i think i am trans? please help

hi sam,

im not sure about this. i have always felt like a boy, being born a girl, and 50% of the time, i feel like a boy, but the other half i feel like a girl, altough not a very feminine one at all.

i think i might be trans, or genderfluid. i dont know. please help me.

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Hi there,

It’s natural to feel unsure about your gender or sexuality while you’re going through puberty. The hormonal changes that are happening in your body can cause these feelings.

Having confusing feelings about your gender or sexuality can be really tough. It's important to remember that lots of people feel confused. It might take time to feel really sure of who you are.

If you think you could be transgender talking to someone you trust might be a good place to start. Your GP will have information about local support for people with gender issues and they can support you in thinking about what you would like to happen.

Gender is a spectrum and it’s okay for young people to spend time working out where they are on that spectrum. The gender identity message boards shows that lots of young people are identifying their gender in different ways.

Our counsellors are always there to listen and support you without judgement if you would like to talk more about this, or anything else that’s on your mind.

Take care,


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