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i don't know if I've gone through puberty yet...

so im a 15 year old boy, and i've always had a high pitched all my friends voices have broken, but mine hasn't, is this normal?
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Thanks for your letter. It seems like you’re really worried because your voice hasn’t broken yet. Your voice breaking is just one part of puberty. Puberty is a really individual thing and everyone will have a different experience of it. People develop at their own rates and for most boys; puberty will start between the ages of 12 and 18. Some changes will happen more quickly than others and some are more noticeable than others. It can sometimes feel frustrating when you are at a different stage from your mates.

Give it time - your body will develop in the way that it’s meant to when it’s meant to. It isn’t a race - just because your voice hasn’t broken yet doesn’t mean it won’t do so in time. But if you do have any worries about this you could maybe try to talk to a school nurse or GP about this a bit more?

Or perhaps you can talk to a male relative about their experiences. I know this can be difficult and maybe even a little uncomfortable but try to remember that any adult relatives once went through puberty too and they may very well have had the same worries and questions as you do now. If you think talking face to face to a relative might be too embarrassing, how about sending an email or a text?

If you haven’t already checked it out, you could look at the puberty for boys page in Explore. It has a great video about a young person who is worried that he is developing more slowly than his friends. There is also a puberty for boys message board where other young people are talking about their experiences which you might find helpful.  

Thanks again for writing to me. I think your question is something a lot of other young men will be worried about too but maybe are too shy to ask.

Take care,


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