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Hi there,
Jealousy can be really difficult to deal with. And feeling jealous can make us think and act differently from what were used to.
Jealousy comes from a fear of not being secure. It can also be in relation to relationships, where its often associated with the fear of losing part or all of that relationship. Anyone can experience it. And we can be left feeling hurt and abandoned. Its natural to feel weve been treated unfairly, or that were no longer interesting enough. But there are things you can do to help.
Sometimes it can help to have a good understanding of how different friendships work. Some friendships can be really strong and last for a long time, while others can become weaker and change in ways that make us feel jealous. People can move on and sometimes it feels they dont care about how we feel. We can sometimes be left as observers or outsiders in groups or friendships that we were part of before.
Understanding and controlling our emotions is a good way to make sure relationships remain healthy. But it can take a bit of time to do. It can help to stop and think for a few seconds when we feel our mood or emotional state changing. It can also be a good idea to know what things in our lives cause or trigger us to react in a negative emotional way.
Sometimes distracting ourselves can help. But some people find the best thing to do is to remove themselves from a particular situation completely. This could just be for a short time. It can take time to find what's best for you.
Remember there are lots of emotions. They can be positive or negative, but theyre part of who we are. Our counsellors can help you to explore you emotions like jealously and how you react to them and the Creative Tool is a great way to express how we feel.
Take care,
Sam
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