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Hi there,
Finding out something that feels upsetting can lead to you feeling a lot of different emotions at once. This can be overwhelming. Crying is a natural way to react in this kind of situation and its okay to give yourself some time to process whats happened. It can also take time to think about how this could affect you and what your worries are.
How you feel about your dads news is really important. Its also important that you feel listened to and respected. Whilst I can see that right now this feels upsetting to you and other members of your family, its actually really positive that he has been honest with you about this rather than keeping secrets. Part of your anger may be that he hasnt told you sooner.
Something to remember is it probably took a lot of bravery for your dad to tell you this. Whilst its understandable that you feel angry, its worth remembering that this situation isnt something your dad chose to be in. Someones sexuality is a part of who they are and theres nothing wrong with being gay. But for someone to come out as gay when youve known them to always be straight can still be shocking.
Once things feel calmer, you may feel ready to talk to someone about this and about what could help things feel easier for you. This may be something you want to talk to your mum or dad about or you may prefer to talk to someone who is less involved in the situation.
There may be a counsellor at your school or college you could talk to or maybe a teacher or a friend of the family. Remember you can always talk to a ChildLine Counsellor.
Take Care,
Sam
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