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Hi there,
Being who you are in public shouldnt be something you have to worry about. Sadly you may find people who dont like you for some reason either for your sexuality, the way you dress, your beliefs and morals or anything else you can think of. It happens to all of us in some way or another at some point, but knowing yourself and who you are is the key to being open and confident.
The LGBTQ+ community have had very difficult times in the past, and still do today. The fact that such a strong community exists is partly down to the struggles that LGBTQ+ people have had to face up to now. Using that community might be one way to feel more confident about who you are. You could get support from other young people on our message boards who might have similar feelings.
Being comfortable with yourself is the biggest step you can take in feeling confident enough to act as yourself around others. Hiding yourself until you are sure someone else will be okay with your sexuality is not something you should have to do. The other person is the one with the problem, not you. Having the confidence to know that and to be yourself anyway takes time and takes courage.
For those people you know personally who might not support you, try to think of it in this way - if they cant accept you for who you are, do you really want to know them anyway? You deserve friends who like you for who you are. Anyone else probably wont make a very good friend.
For those people who cause trouble, this is bullying or harassment and nobody should have to go through that. Whether its because of your sexuality, race, gender, religion or even the music you like or the clothes you wear. Whatever the reason, its never okay for someone to bully or harass you. And its important to tell someone about it.
I hope that helps. If you wanted to talk about what happened in Orlando recently, or about any other worries around your sexuality, then our counsellors are here for you and you can also post on board about current news where other people share their worries.
Its important to be careful about reaching out to people online but there are some recognised and reputable organisations who can support young LGBTQ+ people. It Gets Better is a great place to start when feeling like you are alone. Stonewall and Young Stonewall are also something to check out.
Take care,
Sam
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