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Getting my period

I'm extremely worried about getting my period. I have been getting loads of real bad cramps and back pain. Is this normal to get on your period I just hate the thought of it and my friends at school say horrible stuff about it like you can't do anything. Is this true ???
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Hi there,

It’s normal to worry about what it’s like to have your period, especially if your friends have had theirs first. Periods can be different for everybody, so your friends experience might be completely different to yours, but both are normal.

Periods usually begin during puberty. They are nature’s way of preparing your body for having a baby, and usually they happen once a month. Each month one of your ovaries will release an egg which travels down into your womb. If this egg is fertilised by sperm from a boy’s body you will become pregnant. If the egg isn’t fertilised, the lining of your womb breaks down and passes a small amount of blood out of your body – this is your period.

The bleeding itself is not painful. However, it’s normal to have muscle cramps which can be painful. Some people do also have back pain with their period. This is because throughout your period you will have different levels of hormones in your body so there can be some side effects. People can also experience things like sensitive breasts or a tender tummy.

There are things you can do to ease any pain while on your period. Some people find using a hot water bottle helps, and others will take painkillers like paracetamol. If you decide to take painkillers you should speak to a pharmacist to make sure it’s safe for you to do so. Having your period should not stop you from your normal everyday activities.

If you are having cramps and back pain and your period has not arrived, it would be a good idea to speak to your doctor so they can check there is not another cause.
It can be embarrassing to talk about periods but they are a natural part of life.

Speaking to a trusted adult will help you be prepared for what is going to happen. They can also make sure you have everything you need for when your periods arrives, like sanitary towels or tampons. 

Remember you can also speak to a ChildLine counsellor for further support.

Take care,

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