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Hey sam, i have seen a few of your replies too people and i feel as though if i write too you, it will make me feel so much better. I have my nights where i feel extremely down, too the point where all i want too do is hibernate in my room. I also get super frightened if my doors in the house arent locked because i feel as though someone is going to break in or something. When i think about something that scares me i start to panic so much too the point i shake and cry for hours. Ever since my auntie died a few weeks ago, my parents, well mostly my mother has been really sad as she nursed my auntie for months and months. I see my mother cry a lot ever since, she cries at the smallest things now and cried the other day because the dishes werent done. My mum being really upset is having a impact in my emotions as well because seeing her upset, upsets me. I dont want her too feel sad, but at the same time i dont want to tell her how i have felt for ages  the sadness etc incase is adds more stress onto her.


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Hi there,

It can be normal to feel sad or down from time to time. When we feel this way it’s quite common to want to shut ourselves away. Sometimes we know exactly what’s making us feel this way. At other times we can feel sad or down and not be completely sure why. If feeling down is stopping you from being happy and enjoying your life, or making you feel like life isn’t worth living, then it’s good to share this with someone.

You mentioned that you also get super frightened and panicked. I can hear how scary and upsetting this is for you. I’m not sure how long you’ve been feeling this way, but reading your letter made me wonder whether something happened recently which might be causing you to feel frightened and scared. We have some advice about managing anxiety that might help you. 

I can hear how your mum's sadness is affecting you. The main thing to remember here is that she is still your mum and your feelings are important too. If you feel you don’t want to speak to her at the moment then talking to another family member, teacher or a school nurse might help.

You can always speak to a ChildLine counsellor about how you’re feeling. Our counsellors are here to listen and support you in any way they can. You can call for free on 0800 1111, send an email or log on for a 1-2-1 chat.

It was brave of you to get in touch with me and share these difficult emotions. Remember, ChildLine is always here for you.

Take care,

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