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I'm a 15 year old girl and I live in the UK, I've been quite sad for a while now, and I have self harmed and I want to go to the doctor to see if I have depression but I don't want to involve my parents because I don't want to worry them. Can I go to the doctor without them?thank you
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Hi there,

It can be really hard to deal with feelings of sadness. If these feelings become more intense, they can sometimes lead to ways of coping such as self-harm. It’s okay for you to talk about self-harm and what it means to you and it’s important that you don’t feel alone during this time. There is support out there and you have started to take the steps towards it.

Your doctor is a great person to talk to, as they can be there to give you more information and make sure you get the right support. You should be able to see your doctor alone and your appointment should be confidential, but there are some things that a doctor may feel they need to pass on to someone else, such as self-harm.

The best thing to do is to ask what their confidentiality policy is if you are unsure. You could either ring them if you have their number or visit them during their opening hours and ask the receptionist any questions you might have about confidentiality. Usually the doctor will be happy to talk about what they feel is best and work with you to get the best support,

Sometimes it helps to write down things you want to say or ask before your visit so you don’t forget what to say when you are there. Doc Ready can help you to prepare. Think about what it would be like for your parents to know about this because in the end you might really value the support you get from your family. It’s clear that you have been struggling with these feelings for some time.

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