Recently I have been in a terrible mood. This has been going on for about a year but has gotten worse as the months progress. I get angry. Whenever a member of my family try to talk to me, I get aggressive. Everyone always calls me out on it and it makes me feel even worse. I'm only like this with family. Is this depression? My father passed away ten years ago could this have something to do with it? I'm also extremely anxious and that's been identified as anxiety by the doctor, but they haven't given me anything for it. I have a step dad who I hate and I am self conscious. I don't know if this is depression or just a 'teen thing'
Sam
Hi there,
Feelings caused by your hormones can be really strong and difficult to deal with. And even if these are linked to puberty, it doesnt make them any less real than feelings caused by depression. Negative feelings can get worse over time, so its important to seek help as soon as you can.
Bereavement and loss can have an impact on your feelings for a long time after someone dies. If you find it hard to talk to your family without becoming angry, you could have a think about talking to another adult you trust. This could be someone at school. Youve explained things very clearly so writing a note to your mum or another trusted adult may be one way to let her know that you would like things to change, without having an argument.
Step-families can be complicated as it means bringing two families together to become one and it can have a few challenges along the way. You may find that other young people have spoken about similar situations on the Home and Family message boards.
If anger is leading to arguments, it could be useful to try to find other ways to release that anger. You can also read tips about managing your anxiety and depression. If a doctor said you have anxiety you may have been given support so maybe you could think about going back to your doctor to talk about the way you've been feeling.
Please remember that you can also use the Bereavement and Depression message boards to talk to other young people who may have had similar experiences. If you want to talk more about anything youve told me you can talk to a counsellor.
Doc Ready has tools to help you prepare for speaking to a doctor. A doctor may also be able to answer questions you have about depression. You can also read more about depression on the Young Minds website.
Take care, Sam
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