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I always feel that there may be a stranger in my house that's going to do something to me or my family but the thing is I feel that there is but I know there isnt... Do you know of any tips I can think about if I feel like that again???
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Hi there,

It can really hard when we have a fear or concern and we feel we have no control over it. It is made more difficult when we know that what we are thinking is not true, but it still feels like it could be because it feels so real to us.

This can be a very frightening experience and it can make people feel unsafe and worried in the place they’re supposed to feel the safest – their home. So you’re not alone feeling unsettled and anxious after this experience. 

When you experience this feeling, it's a good idea to talk through the thoughts and feelings that you’re left with. This is important so that you can begin to think through what happened and find reassurance for your worries. It’s a really good idea to talk about how you’re feeling with your parents/carers.

It is also important to remember that this is a feeling and not a fact. Sometimes we need to remind ourselves about this when feelings like this become strong and overpowering. Distraction techniques can also help. Perhaps when you start to get this feeling you could try to distract yourself by doing something you really enjoy. It can take a bit of time to find what works best.

Together, maybe you could come up with some ideas of what might make you feel safer at home – perhaps fitting a burglar alarm or having some locks on the windows installed.

You can also talk these feelings and worries through in more depth with a ChildLine counsellor if you feel this would help.  A good starting point may be to look at possible ways to distract yourself. I hope this helps.

Take care,

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