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Hi there,
Telling someone about your self-harm can be a really difficult thing, especially when they think youve stopped. Theres no right or wrong way to talk to somebody. But there are ways to make it a little easier.
One of the best ways to help you feel able to talk is planning. Taking some time to think about:
You don't have to tell someone something important face-to-face. Sometimes starting the conversation can feel easier when its by text or in a letter. You could just say I want to tell you something but Im not sure how as a way of starting out and see what happens.
Whether its by text message or in person, thinking about what youd want to do next can really build your confidence. We have some really creative ways to distract yourself if youre feeling stuck. We have some great games and videos to take your mind off of things.
People can start self-harming for all different kinds of reasons. Youve not done anything wrong by having a hard time and starting again. Remember, though, that you dont have to go through it alone. It's actually quite common and normal for someone to relapse when they are trying to give something up. One day youll have your last relapse before being able to stop completely. Maybe this is your last one.
When youre scared about someones reactions, think about what they might be like in a month. Everyone is human and that means that sometimes their initial reactions might not be very good. Even though people might not know what to say at first that doesnt mean they wont be there in the future. Letting someone support you can help you to realise that you dont have to be alone.
Trying to explain self-harm when you dont have the words isnt easy. RecoverYourLife has a really good page just for parents and friends. Having a link to send to someone can be a really good way to explain what youre going through.
Talking to a counsellor at ChildLine can be a really good way to get support when youre hurting yourself. They wont judge you or tell you what to do, but they will give you a space that you can talk about anything that might be happening.
Take care,
Sam
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