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Binge Eating

I have this really bad binge eating problem. I always come home and eat loads. I try to stop myself but I can't. I really need your advice.

I binge eat on pretty much anything- even stuff I don't like. I am pretty sure I know why I do it though

I am constantly under pressure to be a good sister, community member and extremley clever and amazing at EVERYTHING! I am also under pressure by my family to be absoultey PERFECT in everything I do.

I hate binge eating but I don't know how to stop it. PLEASE HELP ME!

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Hi there,

Thanks for your letter. Binge eating is something that can happen when you are under a lot of stress or pressure and it sounds as though you are finding it difficult to cope with this at the minute.

It seems to me that you understand what is causing you to binge - the pressure you have talked about. One idea that might help would be to try and make some changes so there isn’t as much pressure on you. You could do this by speaking to your family and letting them know how you are feeling. It sounds as though people expect a lot from you, and maybe if they understood how this was affecting you, they could help.

Speaking to a doctor is also a good idea. A doctor will be able to give you information on what support is available. They could also give you some ideas to help control the feeling of wanting to binge.

When the urge to binge becomes strong, think about some things that you could do instead to try and distract yourself. Doing something you enjoy, like watching TV, reading, or drawing, might help take your mind of it for a while.

You can get more ideas and support from other young people on the ChildLine message boards. Also, you can always get in touch with one of our counsellors by logging on for a 1-2-1 chat, sending an email or by calling 0800 11 11 and talk it through. 

Take care,

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