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Anxiety please help

Hi Sam,

I think I might have anxiety but I don't know how I can ask for help. I'm scared of feeling embarrassed by telling my parents and I also imagine that if I get therapy, the outcome will be that I'm overdramatic and then I'll have to live with the embarrassment of that. I can't tell anyone as they already get annoyed at me for 'acting negative'

College is coming up and I've done some interviews and I keep having thoughts that the interviewers think I'm lying and expect a lot from me from how i presented myself at the interview. I can't tell anyone, online therapy isn't free, i'm trapped.

short version: I think I have anxiety and I don't know how to ask for help

Ask Sam


Hi there,

Talking about your mental health can be the first step towards getting help and support. It’s not always easy to admit that you’re struggling with things so it’s important to find a way to speak up that feels comfortable for you.

When you ask for help, you might feel vulnerable at first as you’re telling someone else things you’d usually keep private. Try to choose someone who doesn’t criticise you or compare you to other people, someone you trust and get on with. If you don’t feel like you have anyone to talk to, Childline is always here for you.

Feeling anxious is something that happens to everyone at some point and it’s nothing to feel embarrassed about. You can send a message, email or text if it’s easier for you than talking face to face. Talking things over on the phone can feel also more comfortable too. You can try preparing what you want to say or just say what’s on your mind - just do what feels right for you.

It’s natural to feel anxious or sad from time to time. Even though it might seem it, no one is confident and happy all the time. You might feel more anxious at certain times, especially when you’re under a lot of pressure. There are things that can help you to cope with anxiety and lots of things you can do to feel calmer. Learning to manage how you feel can also help you to prepare for big events like interviews and exams

Comparing yourself to other people and setting high expectations for yourself can make you feel like you’re not good enough or that you can’t achieve your goals. Try to say some positives things about yourself out loud, first thing in the morning and last thing at night.You could say “Today is a good day, I feel calm and happy”. Put post-it notes around your room with reminders to stay calm and feel good about yourself. You could also keep photos of yourself when you were feeling relaxed and confident to remind yourself that you can be that way again.

If you want to talk to someone about this and learn more about possible next steps – like therapy – why not call or message a Childline counsellor? They are available 24/7, whenever you need someone to listen. You can also find support and get suggestions from other young people on the message boards.

Thank you for your letter, I hope these small tips help with how you are feeling.

Take care,


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