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A doctors visit.

Hi Sam,

So basically I’m 16 and I think I have anxiety and everyday I wonder if I should go to the doctor about it and get a diagnosis.

How do I bring it up to my mum that I want a doctors appointment because of my mental health?

Thanks for your time, I could really do with your advice!

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Hi there,

Anxiety is one of the hardest things to go to a doctor about because the symptoms can be complicated and it can sometimes be difficult for the doctor to decide what is the best action. Taking small steps towards going to your doctor is one way of getting there. It can seem scary but try to remind yourself that you are taking a step closer to getting the help you need. A different way is to push yourself and take a big step like trying something new, but you should work out the best method for you. Whatever happens, talking to your doctor is always okay and they should try to help as best they can. Remember that you can make an appointment with your doctor on your own - even if you are under 16.

Anxiety can make all kinds of everyday tasks more difficult. Some people might struggle going out or meeting people, others may find it difficult just get out of bed. Making an appointment and seeing a doctor can be so hard that some people can't even imagine doing it. No matter what though, it's possible - you just need to find the right way for you. We've got tips on managing anxiety and you can get support from our counsellors to help you make decisions.

It's good that you've thought about bringing it up with your mum. You could write it down for yourself first, then try saying it to yourself out loud and then building up to talking to her in person. You can also just give her the written version if that makes it easier.

A different way is to send a text to your mum saying you have something important to tell her, that way she may ask you about it and in the moment you can try and tell her. If you don't manage it, it's okay - there will be other opportunities and you can always try taking smaller steps first.

I hope this helps.

Thanks for your letter.


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