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Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who have similar problems to you. 

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  • Sam's replies are public, never private, so others can read them
  • Sam will remove personal info from your letter to keep it anonymous
  • if yours is chosen, you'll see it under one of the topics below
  • if you need support now or want to talk privately, contact a counsellor for free on 0800 1111.

latest letters

I need my first bra

Hi Sam, I’m 13- almost 14 and I think it‘s time to ask my mum for a bra but I’m too nervous and I don’t know how to b...

The Summer Holidays!

Hi Sam! I wanted to ask what I can do during the holidays to keep myself sane? The last summer holidays was hell for ...

Long distance/online

this is about a boy i met online through a friend from my school and its been 3 months since we met online and we’ve ...

Homosexuality

I come from an asian background, a very traditional one. And, with my luck, my family is very homophobic and don‘t to...

Sport and confidence

Hi Sam I wanted to write to you as im a bit upset with sport as I go to a club and I dont really fit in as I get lauf...

Message from Sam

I often have a theme that I ask people to write in about but remember that you can still write to me about anything as well. I also want to remind everyone that of the many letters I receive each week I choose just a few to answer on my page. I'm sorry if I don't answer your letter but there is probably a similar letter that I've answered before which might help. If you definitely want a response you can always talk to one of our counsellors.

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Weight

My weight has been my struggle through most parts of my life. I am a little on the heavier side, and im not proud of ...

I hate everything about me

I hate the way I look, everything from my eyes, to my feet, I hate it all. I hate my personality, the way I have so m...

Bullying...

Hi, Sam. I'm Getting Really Scared About Bullies. I Have Just Started High School And Everyone Hate Me... In Primary...

I have long hair.

hey sam. I've had problems in school and at home (very very rarely) about my long hair. ever since I was a child I wa...

What if I have cancer?

Hi. My Mum died in 2008 of breast cancer. I have heard rumors that it could have been passed onto me. I am just worri...

Trans.

Hi Sam. i am a 13 year old girl, and there's not much to say really. I want to be a boy, when I was a bit younger ab...

Transgender in the ATC

Hey Sam, I'm a 14 year old transgender (ftm) and also an air cadet. I'm worried about how to come out to my squadron ...

I think I'm Transgender

Hey Sam, I have a bit of a problem. I think I'm Transgender and have done for over three months now. I have posted o...

Being in the 91 percentile

Dear Sam, I dont know who else feels like this, but the one person I'd really like to please is my mum. She always pu...

Judging

People are judging and bullying me about my size and boobs

Make up

Dear Sam,I feel I have to wear make up to school because everyone else is but we are only in year 6 please help I don...

Terrorists

Due to the attack in Paris I am scared on how people think I look and the colour of my skin!!!!

i need money for some clothes

hi sam i need money for some a school trip i am struggling to get some as my mom is short on money and she needs the ...

does your appearence matter

Do you think your appearence matter? I don't, I don't beacause I like to be different from the others. People at my s...

MAKE UP!!

Hello Sam, Recently lots of people in my class have started wearing make up. I like the idea of it but my parents an...

strange addiction

i've started this really weird addiction and i can't stop it! it is driving me crazy, the problem is that i keep pick...

goth/emo

My friends used to all like me, but now the run around and shout emo and goth at me because the way i dress. I've tol...

Size

MY FRIENDS KEEP ON SAYING THAT I'M OVER DEVELOPED AND THATS WHY MY BOYFRIEND LIKES ME AND NOW I'VE FORCED MYSELF TO...

want to be a goth...

Okay,so I'm really into black, and goth stuff, but I'm really worried people will bully me for it. My mum is also say...

Hair

I'm a 16 year old girl, and last year I cut my hair very short, pixie cut, just before Christmas. I loved it and i st...

Looks

Hi! I at school i sometimes get picked on about my facial looks. People say i have a big nose and am ugly. Others say...

Everyone is perfect except me

Hey,i'm 14 and i love my friends more than anything, they're all perfect!and thats sometimes what gets me down.. They...

I want to be emo…

I'm 14 and I've wanted to be an emo/goth for about 3 years now, but my mum is strong catholic and is strongly against...

group of boys

im not that rich im just 11 years old. It started in year 5 when i was 10 .My mum has'nt got alot of money.she has'nt...