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Hi
Thank you for writing to me. I can hear how upset youve been feeling about being pressured into smoking.
You said that your friend was calling you names and putting pressure on you to try smoking. Calling others names is not ok and its understandable that you felt hurt by this. Being under pressure from your friends can make you feel scared and worried and can push you into doing things that you might not want to.
Its good to hear that you try to stand up to your principles and do what feels right for you. I can hear how disappointed you feel that you tried one puff of the cigarette, but I think its important not to be too hard on yourself. Although you feel bad, no-one else has been hurt by what happened. You might find it useful to read the Explore page on guilt. It sounds like youve learnt from your experience, because it helped you know for sure that you dont want to smoke again. It can be very difficult and lonely to stand up for yourself when you are experiencing peer pressure, so its a good idea to get as much support as possible.
Im really pleased that you had the courage to talk to your teacher. It seems like she was able to give you some good advice. You could also take a look at the peer pressure message boards and see what other young people have to say about peer pressure. Take a look at our peer pressure page in the Explore section for more advice. You could also take a look at our smoking advice in the Explore section for more information about smoking.
Remember when youre feeling lonely and challenged, it can be helpful to talk to someone and to see that you are not on your own. You could talk to your friends and see how they are feeling about your friend smoking. They might be feeling this same way as you are. You can also talk to a family member or other trusted adult like your teacher.
If you would like to talk more about peer pressure, or anything else thats worrying you, you can always speak to a counsellor at ChildLine. You can phone 0800 1111, send an email or log in for a 1-2-1 chat.
Take care
Sam
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