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MY FRIENDS KEEP ON SAYING THAT I'M OVER DEVELOPED

AND THATS WHY MY BOYFRIEND LIKES ME AND NOW I'VE FORCED MYSELF TO WEAR SMALLER BRAS TO MAKE MYSELF LOOK LIKE MY FRIENDS

PLEASE HELP

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Hi there,

We all come in different shapes and sizes. There’s no such thing as being 'overdeveloped'. In the same way that we all have different heights and shoe sizes, girls will have different bra sizes. It’s important to wear a bra that fits you properly so that you can feel comfortable and supported.

Only you can really know how your boyfriend feels towards you and how you feel towards him. If you're really worried about your relationship you could talk to your boyfriend about it.

Nobody has the right to put you down or make you feel bad about yourself. It’s hard to know why someone would make a nasty comment about someone else. You might want to consider talking to your friends about how their comments make you feel.

Sometimes when someone feels low about themselves they might try putting another person down to try and make themselves feel better. This is a type of bullying and all bullying is wrong. 

If you want some support for how this has made you feel, you’re really welcome to contact a counsellor at ChildLine on 0800 1111 or to log on for a 1-2-1 chat. I hope this helps.

Take care,
Sam      

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