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Hello,
Everyone reaches puberty at different ages and develops at different rates. Youre still growing and your body is going through a lot of changes. Youre aware of this but I can hear how frustrating it is right now when you compare yourself to your friends and your sister.
Its natural to compare yourself to people around you, but it isnt always helpful and can be more difficult if youre not feeling confident about yourself and how you look.
Self-acceptance is about accepting who we are and often there can be lots of focus on outward appearances. Thinking about the kind of person that you are on the inside your thoughts, feelings and emotions are equally, if not more, important.
Thinking about your interests and talents and what makes other people want to be around you can help to build confidence and self-esteem.
Even if youre not feeling confident on the outside, sometimes acting as though you are can help you to feel it. And remember, theres more to someone than just the way they look.
Its possible to accept who you are and appreciate the positive qualities that you have. Talking things through can make your thoughts and feelings easier to manage, so remember you can always talk to a ChildLine counsellor or get support from other people on our message boards.
Take care,
Sam
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