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My Height

I am 12years old and just 7weeks ago I began my secondary school since then I have been becoming more self consious on my height, this is simply because my French teacher began this joke saying 'the year 11s are over there' this was a joke relating to my height, I am 5ft 5inch btw

Another thing is that my new class and ex-class makes fun of my height once again.

My old class called me green giant cause compared to them I was really tall, sometimes my friends even make fun of my height even low I may seem all cool about it, I actually really hurts me inside.

Thank you for taking your time to read my letter and hopefully you reply to my letter if not I totally understand why.

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Hi there,

Bullying can take many forms, and one type of bullying is making comments or jokes about a person’s appearance. You’ve described so well how these comments can hurt inside, even if you’re trying to look all cool about it on the outside.

I can’t think of anyone of any age who would want to have jokes made about their appearance. You have every right to tell an adult what’s happening, whether that’s a parent, a form teacher (or another teacher you feel comfortable with) or a Head of Year.

Perhaps one of them might be able to let your French teacher know that their jokes are hurtful. Also, letting a teacher know what’s going on might mean the people who tease you can be talked to and told to stop.

Another idea I sometimes tell young people about is the 'whatever' idea. It’s when you know in advance what you are going to say to every single hurtful comment that comes your way. At those moments you pretend you are the world’s greatest actor, you shrug, and in a flat, uninterested voice you say 'whatever'. It’s like you’re wearing invisible armour. Your 'whatever' is about showing the people who are teasing you that their words aren’t worth much and are just bouncing off your armour.

There’s a lot of information on our website on bullying, including on the message boards where young people post comments to support one another. There may be ideas and messages there that help you feel more able to deal with things. Our counsellors also are here to talk to you about the bullying and what you can do about it.  You can tell us more by email, with a phone call or by logging on for a 1-2-1 chat with us.

You’ve said that even your friends sometimes make fun of your height. Maybe a counsellor could help you think if there’s a way you can let them know you’d like them to stop.

You’ve done such a good job explaining what’s happening and being honest about how it affects you, so well done.

Take care,

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