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Hello Sam,

Recently lots of people in my class have started wearing make up. I like the idea of it but my parents and friends said I do not need it. At the minute I am getting a few spots and I am worried that I won't have many friends in Secondary School.I feel as though I have a bit of pressure. Everyone says they do it so they can get a cute boyfriend.

What should I do?

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Hi there,

Deciding to wear make up is a personal decision and although places like school may have rules that stop people wearing make up, nobody can force you to wear it. It’s a choice you need to make for yourself, and doing that is sometimes quite hard.

There can be a lot of pressure for people to look a certain way, and this can include wearing make up. It’s not wrong to want to wear it, but it’s also important to know that you don’t need to wear make up to be pretty or look good.

Attractiveness can be just as much about self-confidence as it is physical appearance. People who feel good about themselves are easier for others to feel attracted to, and so being comfortable with who you are and how you look is a big step forwards for anyone to take.

Some people find that wearing make up can give a feeling of confidence, and if this works for you then that should be what matters the most, not what other people think. So long as you are doing it for yourself and not for others then that’s the main thing.

It might be that you want to experiment and start with just a little bit of make up to see what that’s like. You could take a look at our message boards to see what other young people think about make up.

I hope that helps.

Take care,

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