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I am ugly

i literally always feel so ugly. i hate the way i look soo much, i have eczema which creases my eyelids because of the cream i used and i have such a big forehead, my teeth are really wonky, my skin is awful:( i have wrinkly hands again because of my eczema, i'm tall, i have really fat legs and always feel so disgusting, i never am happy with what i look like i just hate how i look soo much
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Hi there,

It can be really difficult feeling down about the way that you look. Lots of people feel like this as they go through puberty, so it’s definitely not something that you’re alone with.

Often magazines, TV shows and films can give the impression that everyone else has a perfect body and amazing skin, but in real life it’s not like that. We’re all different. And even people who you might think are physically perfect are likely to feel self-conscious sometimes.

When you feel down about yourself, it can help to try and think about the things that you do like about you or feel that you are good at. Maybe think about any nice qualities you have or how you think people who care about you might describe you. Try to remember these when you start to feel down. Remember there’s a lot more to you as a person than one part of your appearance.

Sometimes the things that we feel most self-conscious about are things other people don’t even notice. Although I understand that if you feel very aware of it that can feel hard to believe.

When your appearance is getting you down it can help to try and build up your confidence and self-esteem. This can help you start to feel happier in yourself. Maybe think about times when you’re at your most confident, whether it’s during a certain activity or being around particular people and maybe spend some time doing that.

You could also take a look at the message board posts on self-esteem to see what other people have had to say about it and what has felt helpful for them.

Sometimes talking through any negative feelings that you’re having can help you to start looking at things in a different way. Maybe have a think about whether there are any adults you could talk to. And remember, our ChildLine counsellors are always there to listen on 0800 1111 or by starting a 1-2-1 chat.

Take care,

Sam

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