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Hi S*,
Im really glad that you decided to write to me. It sounds like youve been having a tough time at school lately. Its wrong of people to laugh at others and it sounds as though you are losing confidence because you are worried about whether others are judging you on the way you look.
You mentioned that lots of people have blonde straight hair and from what you have said it seems that you are not happy having brown hair thats a bit curly. Difference and variety between people makes the world an interesting place. You have the right to be proud of your individuality. People can always change their hair colour and straighten or curl their hair, but the most important thing is who you are and how you are feeling on the inside.
You also told me that you have acne. Many people develop acne when their hormones are changing. If you are worried about it you can talk to your doctor who might be able to offer treatments which could improve it.
Im glad to hear that you have loads of friends at school. It sounds as though you give your self a hard time when you compare yourself to them. It seems like youve been getting down recently when you think about what things are like at school.
You said you feel as though its really pressuring. Nobody is ever allowed to pressurise you into anything that you dont feel comfortable with. You might want to think about what kinds of things you can do for yourself to build your confidence and make you feel good about yourself.
The counsellors at ChildLine are always there to listen and support you through whats happening. You can contact them any time by 1-2-1 chat or by calling 0800 1111. You can have a live conversation about how you are feeling and what you might want to do next. You can also get help and support from your people your own age on the on the ChildLine message boards.
Hope this helps.
Take care,
Sam
You can talk privately to a counsellor online or call 0800 1111 for free.
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