Going to the doctors


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hello sam i have been told to go to the doctors to get anti depressants im nervous about telling the doctor how i feel and what to say ? i dont want them to think bad of me as i have a 3 year old little boy
Ask Sam


Hi there,

It’s common for people to experience depression or anxiety at some point in their life. It can be a tough thing to talk about, so some thoughtful people created a website called Doc Ready to help.

Doc Ready helps you to plan what you’d like to say by making a check-list. This means that even if you’re nervous on the day, you won’t forget to say what’s important to you. Also if you think you might find it too scary to talk, you can print of your check-list and give it to the doctor. We also asked Dr. Ranj some questions about what it's like to visit a doctor - you can read what he said here.

It might be that the doctor prescribes you medication, but perhaps there are other options for treatment that they can explore with you too.

It sounds like you’re really worried that a doctor would judge you because of how you’re feeling and the fact that you’re a mum. But having depression doesn’t make someone a bad mum. Getting support when you need it is a really good way to help yourself be the best mum that you can be. It’s also a really good way to show your little boy that even big people need help sometimes, and that mental health is just as important as physical health. These are really great things that you can teach him.

If you’d like to talk through this with a counsellor at ChildLine, you could get in touch by email, online chat or phone. The counselling team don’t judge and are there to help and support you no matter what’s going on in your life.

You might find that there are other young people using the ChildLine message boards who have experience of talking to their doctor for the first time, or perhaps being a parent having a tough time. You could check that out too if you wanted to.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do next,

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You can talk privately to a counsellor online or call 0800 1111 for free.

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