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I'm 14 years old and I've been thinking about going to my local clinic to get 'the pill' because i want some sort of contraception, because I get really really heavy periods and, it isn't that I want to have sex, Nor am I planning it, it is just that if the time comes along I want to be safe, and protected. My question is, are they allowed to give me it without a parents permission? Because It's not a conversation I want to have with my ma but this is something I really want to do.

Thank you:)

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Hi there,

Planning ahead and thinking about contraception is definitely a positive thing to do. Even if you don't plan on having sex, if you want to feel secure knowing that you are protected if the time comes then it's okay to start looking into it. You can get free contraception without your parents knowing or being involved, even if you are under 16.

Whilst the law does say you need to be 16 to have sex, it's also understood that some people choose to do it anyway. It's more important that you have sex safely so doctors and sexual health clinics will give free contraceptives to most people, even if they are under 16. You don't need your parents involved and there are even some clinics specifically for young people.

Brook have a lot of good advice about getting contraception on their website and you can find a service close to you if you'd like to talk to a medical professional about it. And you can talk this through some more with one of our counsellors if you need to. They'll be happy to chat about this confidentially.

I hope that answers your question, thanks for the letter.


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